Let’s Look: How you Work on Your Marriage

Happy Wednesday everyone! Today is a Let’s Look prompt where we link up with Shay from Mix and Match Mama blog and Erica from A Little Bit of Everything blog. I’m super excited about all the topics this year – they are just so creative and fun! So kind of them to do these link up parties!

This month’s topic is, how you work on your marriage. When I looked at the calendar to see what the post was – I mentioned it to him to get some input! After all, it takes two to tango!

When I read the prompt to him, we both kinda chuckled and said…how do we work on our marriage? Ha! We know the ways we SHOULD work on our marriage – taking time for one another, date nights, open lines of communication, handling disagreements better…etc, but do realize it’s easy to forgot to continue to work on and nurture those things.

I recently heard a line from a homily – “What is a perfect marriage? A perfect marriage is the union between an imperfect husband and an imperfect wife who won’t give up on each other.” Wow! That resonates with me…isn’t that the truth!

I can say that throughout our 10 years of marriage and knowing each other for 23 years – nothing is PERFECT. After all, we are two DIFFERENT people. We all have our flaws, ticks, triggers and personalities. I often laugh after an argument that even after ALL THIS TIME, there are still new things we learn about each other. I think one this understanding brings us to our first point of how we work on our marriage…

Nothing is perfect! That’s life, isn’t it. Being aware of this simple truth helps bring things into perspective no matter the situation.

Practice humility – This is a challenge but SO important. Humbling yourself – serving your spouse, putting them first and admitting your mistakes set the tone for a healthy marriage!

Laugh together – I mean – this is what gets us through, ha! We love to laugh together and it’s when you share these moments that you just love your spouse that much more!!

Open and honest communication – Keeping open and honest lines of communication are SOOO important. Taking the time to talk with your spouse about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns sets the tone for a healthy relationship. I know I need to work on being a good listener, showing empathy and understanding better.

Maintain healthy balance of independence and togetherness – while being together is so important, we also feel it’s extremely important to have your own independence – whether its going out with friends, having card night with the boys or doing a hobby, it’s so important to respect and allow this time apart.